Book Review: The ABCs of Caregiving
“Some caregivers believe that they must devote every waking moment to their loved one: it’s their responsibility, duty and commitment. Only by giving until it hurts can this all-consuming obligation be fulfilled.”
--Nanette J. Davis, Ph.D., author, "The ABCs of Caregiving:
Words to Inspire You"
Does that quote sound like you as a caregiver? It definitely reminds me of myself in my early days as a caregiver to my mother, Judy. When she moved in with me and my young family, I thought I could be all things to all people, if I just tried hard enough.
If you feel over-extended as a caregiver, I recommend an antidote: a little book called “The ABCs of Caregiving: Words to Inspire You.” It’s a short, sweet read, a book you might keep on your bedside table and return to again and again.
Nanette J. Davis, Ph.D., the author of two other books on caregiving, was the primary caregiver for her husband as he slowly declined with a long-term condition. She knows what it’s like to be on the front lines of caregiving, and to grieve for someone you love while they are still alive. She understands the daily stresses of caregiving, how they can leave you feeling exhausted, frustrated, and angry at times. She gets it. She’s been there.
But in her book, “The ABCs of Caregiving: Words to Inspire You,” Davis focuses on how you can feel empowered and uplifted as a caregiver, not defeated. Davis draws not only on her own experience as a caregiver, but on her interviews with 60 family caregivers.
The book is divided into brief sections on “words to inspire you” for each letter of the alphabet—for example, “acceptance,” “compassion” and “perfectionism.” Each section is a sort of meditation, an affirmation of both the importance of your role as caregiver and the need to focus on your own well-being.
Read the rest of my review on caregivers.com.